Monday, August 11, 2003
So, I'm in one of those situations that could potentially get... interesting.
As you may recall, I went out with several of my co-workers a few weeks ago. Also present was a guy named Ted, a roommate of one of my co-workers. Ted was a nice, friendly sort of person and seemed fun to talk to. That was my impression anyway -- but I've only met the guy once.
Of course, you all know what's coming now: Apparently, Ted is rather interested in me and has been asking about me. Not that I heard this information from his roommate -- in fact, his roommate told two of our other co-workers, and they passed it on to me. But whatever. The point is, I'm in one of those weird quandaries now. On the one hand, Ted was nice enough and seemed fun to hang out with -- but I've only met him one time, and the fact is, I am really not interested in dating anyone at the moment.
Micki, of course, thinks that I'm a nutcase, and that I "need" to take this opportunity (which, I hasten to point out, is not technically even an opportunity yet -- I mean, at the moment it's like freaking junior high, with friends of friends telling me that so-and-so likes me -- but I digress...) to go out and date, since dating is "a part of life" that I evidently am missing out on. Personally, I've conceded that I wouldn't mind going out with Ted and the group again, and maybe after that I wouldn't mind going out as friends -- but as of right now I'd definitely feel uncomfortable going on a date.
I'm probably going to completely botch this, trying to put my thoughts into words, but oh, well. I know Micki thinks I'm crazy because my personal views on dating are not the norm. You see, I don't see the purpose of dating "for fun". If I want to go out with a guy just for fun, I go with him as a friend without the word "date" attached -- like I do with my friend Joseph, for example. That's not at all a date, but I get to go out and have a good time, which is what matters. If I'm going to "date" someone, I'm going to go because I know the person well, and am genuinely interested in him as more than a friend.
This is usually what baffles people, because they think, "DUH! Dating is supposed to help you evaluate whether you know and like him!" and well, I don't believe that. Dating in our society has a lot of strings attached: if you are "dating" someone, it's expected that eventually it will become at least a little bit physical. What is the "accepted" number of dates before a kiss? three? I think I'd have some serious issues about letting somone kiss me after going out with them a scant three times. Unlike way too much of this world, I don't believe in having a physical relationship of any sort purely for fun, and if I'm dating "for fun" then I don't want to get involved in that way -- thus, I might as well be seeing the person as a friend at first. So I believe that friendship should be the first step. And that is why I always end up falling for my friends.
OK, I explained myself terribly. I might have to edit this later.
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